advice needed cuz i'm in strange territory and don't know what to do here

so here's the thing...

I have a friend. he's a good friend. At least I thought so.

We kind of "broke up" yesterday, and I don't really know why.

Now, this is a man, yes, but we really were "just friends".

We would talk about his dates and what he should do and wear and such...

sample:

him..."What should I wear? clothes?" (we have the same twisted sense of humor)

me...."Yes, clothes would be good in this situation. How about the blue striped shirt you have? and be sure and start buttoning it from the bottom up so you don't screw it all up."

him..."fuck you"

me...."no thank you"

him..."Should I kiss her?"

me...."sure, if you feel it. but DO NOT have sex on the first date.Not unless all you're looking for is a booty call, then by all means, get your freak on."

yada yada...you get the idea.

So we would talk about everything. I could be myself around him...cuss in front of him. call him a motherfucker if I wanted to and he wouldn't get mad at me, or scream at me. I could even BURP in front of him and he would rate them! "That was only a 3, Red, (he calls me Red) come on..you can do better than that!" (there is NO burping in my house by me...women "don't do that" and I get yelled at if I burp...or fart, cuz women don't do that either)

So we talk every day, text every day, that sort of thing. FRIENDS. and Monday we had a really good conversation about what he's looking for in a woman. he's recently divorced and just dating around. Well, we both have a twisted, sarcastic sense of humor...the more twisted, the better. So I told him I found him a 12 year old who wore sundresses and had a bush down to her knees...and he got grossed out, and we laughed, cuz that's the complete opposite of what he's looking for.

Then Tuesday, he was going out after work with a woman, for drinks. And I was texting him, asking if she was there yet, what does she look like?,...is she cuter than me? that kind of thing. Just joking around with him, like we always do.

Then yesterday, he didn't say "Moanin Red" like he does every morning in a text..and I asked him if he was mad at me. I mean, he wakes me up every morning with this text. and he said, "not really". WTF does THAT mean? I asked him if it was because I was being so obnoxious the night before..(and I was totally obnoxious, which I usually am around him cuz thats who I am in real life!)..I apologized profusely, told him I was only joking that I hoped she didn't show up, that sort of thing.

He says this: "You meant to do exactly what you did. so don't say your sorry"

I said, "what exactly did I do?"

he said, "tried to ruin my time with someone else"

WHATTHEFUCK??!!!!!

So, we didn't speak all day yesterday, then last night he said that he wants me to stop texting him...don't call him, don't text him..he is done with women, yada yada yada.

Now, in his defense, his wife screwed him over bad, so he kind of hates all women right now, but I thought we had worked past that..and had settled into a nice fun friendship. I could bust his chops and he could bust mine. I talked to him when I was upset, and he talked to me when he was upset. When a date didn't work out, we talked about it, what could he do different next time...that kind of stuff.

So I am just a little flabbergasted by all of this right now. and hurt.

I am a big supporter of men and women being friends together. Marvin says NO WAY can they be friends cuz one of the two always wants to have sex with the other one. Men and women CAN'T be friends. But I don't think that way. I think a little sexual tension is bound to happen...we are Humans after all. But I think you can get past that and move on to something deeper and lasting.

So to lose this friend is sad to me. very very sad. and I am sad today. and crying today. and miserable today. and I'm left wondering, "what the hell happened? and where was I when this happened?!" and yes, Marvin knows we are friends....there is nothing secret going on here.

And while we're on the "marvin front"...things are the same. some things never change and some things always stay the same.

so what the hell is going on here? what should I do? do I just give my friend space and see what happens? I'm lost.