and can I just say this?
Women can be such bitches.
Since losing weight, I've lost a few women friends too.
they don't like it now that I am skinnier than they are.
WTH? I was their friend when they were skinnier than ME!!!!
Hey, I got tired of being "the duff".
Why is this? Shouldn't women support other women??
DAYUM!
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Okay, that sucks even harder. I think it's awesome that you've lost weight and that it's a spiritual weight loss as well as a physical one! If they can't be supportive, they were never true friends anyway, and who needs fake bitches crowding your life?
You changed the dynamic by becoming what they may now perceive as a threat. Which is why in the past, I mostly hung with guys. Even with all the unspoken sexual tension, they were more reliable than women.
yeah- whats up with that - women can overlook a chunky chick but once that chick gets thin watch out sister...you become a threat.
that's just it....IM NO THREAT!!!!! I don't want YOUR man! and I don't want any man that you're going after!!! why can't we share clothes? it will save us both alot of money!
it's funny that you bring this up, b/c one of my closest friends has pulled away quite a bit since my weight loss. she insists that i will "change" and stop talking to her ~ so, to prevent this, she stopped talking to ME (?). people are weird, i guess... they get to know us, and have an idea of us as one way, and when that changes, it causes problems. don't worry, i'm sure whoever it was will come around eventually.
Have to say that I agree with both Jennie and Kailyn.
The spiritual weight loss comes with a change in dynamics. I wonder if your friends are living admid instability in their own homes and day to day, you know..?
That would add to the constantly percieved 'threat' you have become. I think it is a woman thing, not trying to stereotype. But I think that women react to self improvement differently than men. The way a man would deal with one of their crew losing weight or buffing up, is to either celebrate and try to match or to stress there better qualities without trying to bring the other cat down. After all, even in raggin' on someone, it would only show your insecurity (bad) and bring the cat a man is jealous of, more attention (worse!).
You look amazing and you own it!
I know you don't want my man but we won't go into that here! :)
I'm so proud of you and while I'm at it...sometimes when I'm really pissed off that I'm on the treadmill and I hate every minute of it I think of your success and I just get through it. So there...you ARE an inspiration!
I have to say... I agree with you a little - but look at it from their point of view - maybe they're jealous that you have lost the weight that they are trying to lose? Just a thought. As someone who is constantly struggling with her weight up and down (lately more up than down) I can fully admit that while I've be happy for friends that have lost weight or made a positive change in their lives, I've (secretly) been a little jealous of them at the same time.
Some of these women in your lives may be just downright jealous of you -but take a closer look and see if you can be that inspiration that they need to get closer to their goal.
Just my .02!
why do you assume its the weight and not something(s) else.
I'm with u on that...love is support ! Its close to cincinatie
a lot of my best gal pals are heavy, they used to always call me the skinny rich bitch...I am not as skinny as I used to be, and no longer can be called rich (monetarily that is) but am proud that I am still the bitch! If they dropped you as buds over your weight then they were not worthy of your freindship in the first place!
The jealous gene runs much stronger in women- guys compete in sports, women compete a whole different way!
I had a similar experience- but only with a very limited number of friends. For the most part my girls are still my girls and have stood by me through literally thick and thin
I know,right?? Women suck it! I have one friend she is such a know it all. It pisses me off. I blogged about her in my private blog.
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