ok...............
so I am now of the mind that women and men can't be "just friends"
and it makes me sad.
I like having men as friends.
They tell it like it is, and I like that. Tho they CAN be confusing at times.
But they don't gossip about you or talk behind your back like alot of women do...and they don't normally hold grudges. Normally.
But, I thought we were cool and I guess we're not. Other "factors" have taken over and we can no longer be friends.
And that's ok.
I think people come in to our lives at different times for different reasons.
some stay forever, some stay for years.....some just stay for a few months.
I will take what's good and throw out the rest. And I won't be sad for what I've lost in this friendship, but be happy for what I've gained.
and that's insight into the mind of a Man. So that can only help me in the long run, right? ;)
and it taught me a lesson:
Men and women can't be friends without the "sex" thing getting in the way, no matter how much I'd like to think differently.
So my husband was right.
I don't have to tell him that do I? ;)
17 comments:
Well, Tranny-cakes, I don't think the 'sex thing' will get in the way for us... I might be wrong, though. If you try to hit on my man Ricky Martin, it could get ugly.
I think you should. It will help your relationship in the end. This way he knows that you 'get it' and he doesn't have to wonder about your male friends.
Personally, I think anything that ends up with someone in their relationship finding another reason to appreciate the one that they are with, is a good thing.
Oh, DON'T MOURN the lost friendship. If you do, then I would think that there was more to it emotionally than a friendship.
Deuces!
The sex thing is only a problem when one party makes it so. As the saying goes, you can't unring the bell. That's one of the things I learned when I used to hang out nearly exclusively with guys. Like religion and politics, some things just aren't brought up in conversation. Hmmm. I might just have to write a post on this topic just for you.
Howard: you know I want you, right? XOXOX
Mark: I just miss the fun we had..that's all. But sex always rears its ugly head, in the end. UGH. and I was emotionally tied to him, as I am with ALL of my friends...my friends become my FAMILY. sad to say. XOXOX
kailyn: thanks girl...and this bell was never rung, so we don't have to worry about THAT!!!!! I just like to KEEP friends, not lose them, ya know?
You can be friends with as many men as you want - but it helps if they're gay.
XOXOXOXOXOXO
tranny: I NEED more Gays!!!!! NEED NEED NEED!!!!!! XOXOXO
I MUCH prefer working with men as opposed to all women offices who can get machiavellian in a heartbeat.
I think there is a lot to say about gay boyfriends!
Beth, I so sorry. I'm not exactly sure what is happening, but I don't need to, to know it sucks. Even worse, you have to admit the husband is right! Argh! You were a big girl and didn't choke on it. I'm so proud.
((hug))
well you are still safe with me - so it is possible to be friends with a non-gay man!
froggy: me too!!!!
jennie: choke, spit...gag...huh? Oh ya, he was right. damn.
Dog: you're about the ONLY STRAIGHT guy friend that I have where the "sex thing" doesn't come in to play...hmmm.....maybe its cuz we've been friends so long, we don't even "go there" with each other? and plus, you think Im some uptight Midwestern church-going woman who would be APPALLED by lots of things...huh...what do YOU know?!!! ;)
you are amish - remember...LOL
Dog: thats right!!!! AMISH!!!!!! LMAOOOOOOOOO
I guess he's out of the band then - cant have that fleetwood mac kind of tension...LOL
I learned that a while ago, and was disappointed when I lost a friend as well.
Sigh
Insight gained anyway.
Dog: hes outta there!!! I aint no Stevie Nicks, mkay?
Rocky: sucks doesn't it? insight is highly over-rated in my book. :) XOXOX
Double edged sword...if u were not so gorgeous and amazing! So sorry you feel sad...I hear you. It is really nice to have men friends, but it gets complicated. It is our human nature... we are built to reproduce and survive. Hopefully you can find a place for this in your heart that that works for you.
Big hug!
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